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Saturday, January 7

Early morning lovin'

So, James Bond was on last night at 1am. It was classic James Bond (not the Pierce Brosnan kind) so I was able to keep my eyes open for the whole show. Now, due to a myriad of reasons, we hadn't really had some good, messy, lubey, orgasmic sex in about a week. Sure there was a blowjob here and some groping there, but not real P&V sex.

I knew that my husband had been feeling the decline, that he was in the mood. I acquisced to his twiddling my bits throughout the movie, by the end of the movie I was ready for more. My darling husband, knowing I'd worked all day and am not generally a nighttime person was so sweet in giving me the choice of tucking in for sleep, or getting a little snooky time in first. I pondered, I felt my tingly cucci, I remembered that weekends are for sleeping in late anyway, I remembered my New Year's Resolution, I asked for the sex.

It was quite wonderful. He flipped me onto my tummy and loved me up and down (but mostly down) with his tongue and fingers. I'll spare the nitty gritty details, but there was some pretty sweet stuff going on involving: lots and lots of wetness, some very yummy backdoor action, exhaustion induced wacko thoughts and hallucinations, some down and dirty doggy style penetration. (oh, I thought I was going to spare the nitty-gritty here... sorry)

I've learned some selfish things about me. Lately, I've liked coming first (as in before we get to the penetration part) for the following reasons.
  • Takes the pressure off. I get a little wired about orgasms sometimes. What if I don't? What if I can't? What if he gets bored before I do and I'm left in the lurch? What if I get overdone and don't know how to tell him? If I have one, get it over with, so to speak, I can just enjoy the rest of the show.
  • I really, really, really like penetration after an orgasm. I mean, really. When I've come I can really enjoy some P&V, maybe even moreso than before an orgasm.
  • If my husband is pleasuring me before he's had an orgam, I don't need to worry that he'd getting bored/sleepy/frustrated. I can be pretty sure he's pretty hard himself and enjoying what he's doing. Now that's not to say that he doesn't enjoy pleasuring me otherwise - he's told me enough times that he does. But for my brain, it feels better knowing he's physiologically motivated.

So there you go, that's how things are. At least right now. When we move into marathon sex and multiple orgams I'm sure things will change. But for now, I think we're enjoying eachother pretty good.

PS - Just an added note. It's so neat to be with 1 partener for all these sex-capades. Because I get to learn things about me and about him, and then we keep doing things and adding to our resepective knowlege bases, it only gets better and better and better! It's also nice to be able to write things down for my husband to read. Not a very good talker, but my typing skills are exceptional. Communication is key!
posted by claire ~ 6:45 p.m. | bullet.gif


**I really, really, really like penetration after an orgasm. I mean, really. When I've come I can really enjoy some P&V, maybe even moreso than before an orgasm.**

Missed this post before, Claire. I really, really, really agree with this statement! Really! :)

By Blogger O272, at 6:01 p.m.  

Hey Claire, I'm so bummed that I was gone when you wrote this post! I almost missed it.

Anyway, good, good, yay! for you for realizing that you orgasming first is good for both of you. It's not selfish at all, and you should take his word for it when he says he enjoys it too. (I do that too.)

This sentence caught my eye. "What if I get overdone and don't know how to tell him?" This is an interesting question. I know what you mean about being overdone, sometimes the pleasure turns a bit to soreness, and then you need to speak up, it just gets further and further along if you don't say anything. On the other hand, I know you said you are still working up to the multiple orgasms thing, and you are right, it does take your body a while to catch on, mine did. On the other hand, sometimes you need to push past that extra sensitive feeling, that's where all the good stuff is!! Husband is good about really pushing me to my limits when I just want to stop, and boy, I'm glad. The stuff over there is GREAT! If I get to feeling really sensitive I ask for really, really light soft pressure and possibly more lube. (If it tingles, all the better!)

And, yes! I love that I only had one partner to figure all these things out together! Good for you!

PS Sorry, this is more of a post than a comment...I do tend to do that!

By Anonymous Anonymous, at 12:04 p.m.  

Thanks, bedroomdancer. I really appreciate the comments. I suspect my New Year's resolution about fewer hang ups is going to play a part here. Just relax and enjoy the ride, I keep telling myself. (Glad you had fun in your hotel, by the way :)

By Blogger claire, at 9:52 p.m.  

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